3 Lessons That Trap Children’s Instincts

Some call it sixth sense, others intuition and still others instinct. A skill that we have since childhood, but which over the years is destroyed by logic and rationality. Not everything is logical. Thanks to our instincts, we can identify toxic people, know when someone is doing us good or trying to harm us.

If we eliminate instinct, we become more vulnerable people. So why do we do it? What happened? The education. Adults believe they can teach, but are unaware that there are important skills they don’t pay attention to. For example, instinct.

How we educate our children is influenced by how our parents did it or how others do it. In this way, we repeat patterns, without analyzing them in depth to determine if they are right or wrong. Today we will give you some examples of how certain attitudes that we believe to be right, and which we therefore strengthen, can actually kill the instinct of our children.

We kill instinct when we apply pressure

You may believe that there are times when putting pressure on your children can bring positive results. This is not the case when it comes to, for example, hugging or kissing other people. Everyone tends to be affectionate with little ones, but has anyone ever wondered if they want it?

Imagine they force you to kiss someone you dislike or hug someone you dislike at all. If your child doesn’t like hugging someone and you force them to, you are killing their instincts. He will learn that he must not systematically submit to the will of an adult, regardless of whether he likes the adult or not.

Likewise, there is another type of pressure. A pressure that has arisen in recent years and that prevents children from living their childhood. We’re talking about the terrible extracurricular activities, the ones that keep children busy but prevent them from doing what they do best and what they need, which is to play. If it’s with the parents, even better.

Children learn from an early age to participate in activities that in theory will make them more competitive in the future, regardless of whether they are having fun, whether they are happy… In this way, we are killing their instincts. Eventually, they will become adults who don’t know what they really want and who will get carried away with any work that enslaves them.

Fears are not nonsense

How many times have we heard the phrase “you are too big to be afraid of the wolf” or “it’s stupid to be afraid of the dark”. With these words we try to reassure our children, but in reality we are ignoring their fear. This, without knowing it, becomes a barrier.

The child will learn to hide his fears so that others do not think he is being ridiculous. His instincts will be destroyed little by little until the moment in which he will no longer be able to distinguish which fears are true and which are not. This can cause him serious problems in the future.

An opposite attitude is that of parents who try to protect their children at all times. It is normal to have this temptation. But sooner or later even children will have to face problems, fears and situations with their attitude and their attitudes. By protecting them too much, we risk giving them a false security that will drastically break if one day they fail to get to that level of protection.

When a baby experiences this false feeling of security, his sixth sense goes numb and he won’t wake up when needed. When he makes a mistake, he will feel lost, insecurity will make him sink. We have the misconception that we always have to protect our children, but in reality we should be teaching them how to protect themselves.

Parents aren’t always right

Why do we always want to be right? Adults are also wrong, but it seems we want to be better, to give a false appearance of perfection. We do not realize that we are human and imperfect like everyone else. This will make us make many mistakes.

Do you remember when you were children? Do you remember when you didn’t understand why your parents made you do something that they themselves didn’t do ? This can confuse a child, preventing him from understanding what is right and what is not.